Getting to ‘No’
Roger Fisher and William Ury wrote a book over 30 years ago, "Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In". Some of you may have seen, heard of, or have read the book, as it is used in college and law school classes to teach negotiation tactics and skills. The book focuses on the method of principled negotiation based on four propositions: 1) separate the people from the problem; 2) focus on interests, not positions; 3) invent options for mutual gain; and 4) insist on using objective criteria. (Admittedly, I read only a portion of this book for one of my political science classes when I was an undergraduate at the University of Maryland, College Park. The actual book from college is currently sitting on my nightstand waiting to be reread for the very first time.) For a number of conflicts, dispute resolution such as negotiation should assist in making the best, most cost-effective and reasonable decision. In other situations, the only answer is "no." For me, these situations do not arise during my course of dealings as an attorney with clients or opposing parties in litigation -- they arise when I am dealing with requests from other commitments. If you are a regular reader of Generation J.D. or a reader of my blog, you may know that I am a major proponent of attorneys becoming involved with the Maryland State Bar Association, their local bar association (Baltimore County for me), and their community. Getting involved is an easy three step process: 1) show up; 2) do good work; and 3) repeat. Before you know it, you will be asked to do more good work. You may move up the chain of command and might chair a committee or become a member of an organization's board of directors. More doors will open and additional requests on your time will be made. (It almost sounds like "Oh the Places You'll Go!" by Dr. Seuss).