The outcome in a family-law matter affects more than just the parties involved — it affects all aspects of their lives, children (regardless of age), extended family, friends, jobs and finances. Additionally, unlike in criminal and personal injury cases, many people feel like they have less control over why they are involved in a family law case in the first place.
As a family law attorney, my goal is not only to try and resolve cases with the best possible outcome but also to guide my client toward a result that will help all aspects of their life (the court does not consider this when making decisions). Even though I am a litigator by training and know my way around the courtroom, it is my philosophy that it’s in my client’s best interest to resolve personal matters as quietly, quickly and amicably as possible.
Only in the extreme circumstances should “pit bull” tactics come into play. If those tactics are used all the time, the only people who benefit are the attorneys taking the parties’ hard-earned incomes and assets. Using “pit bull” tactics all the time almost guarantees the parties will have a long and drawn out court battle. The income and assets to pay attorneys could be better spent on their family.
Even though parties involved in a divorce and/or custody matter can easily suffer from “temporary insanity,” I challenge my clients — and myself — to take the higher ground. While I am an attorney and I aggressively advocate for my client’s rights, I am also a husband, a father, a son, a sibling, and a friend. I show compassion for my clients and treat every case with respect and dignity during the course of my representation and beyond.
I urge you, as a young attorney, to develop your personal philosophy and write it down. It’s helpful to refer back to when circumstances arise that might have you questioning yourself as an attorney.