By: Jason Beaulieu
Three years ago this July, we had to put our pet dog down. Sammy was his name, a fawn Boxer with the disposition of a jester and the lines of a thoroughbred. He was the runt of the litter when we got him, but grew to a fit 60 pounds. Sammy especially loved playing with other Boxers, including his best friend, Otis.
Best of all, Sammy was great around our children. After our oldest daughter was born, we brought her knit cap home for Sammy to smell before their first meeting. It must have worked. Sammy enjoyed her hugs and kisses but endured countless lip pulls and horsey rides, all without a growl or snip. He showed more patience than his owners on many occasions.
Although Sammy turned eight that July, tumors and canine epilepsy had begun to ravage him several months prior. Eventually the daily seizures and spontaneous yelps of pain were too much to take. A sick dog around young kids is a dicey situation, too, so we called the vet and set up the appointment. It was the first time my wife or I had to personally do such a thing. Pangs of guilt crept into the rationalizations.
I left work early the afternoon we did it. As luck would have it, it was a brilliant sunny day and Sammy seemed to be doing okay. His bounding-into-the-car days were gone, but he perked up as we drove to the clinic. He also did the tongue-out, pant thing dogs do where it looks like they’re smiling. The pangs of guilt got stronger, a brutal companion to the lump in my throat.
After we arrived at the vet’s, we stayed outside for a few minutes to walk Sammy on a small island of grass near what looked like an oak tree sapling. He sniffed around, cocked his leg to do his business like a boy dog should, and looked at us like he appreciated the walk. Then, it was time.
The office was like most vets’ clinics. Gray chairs lined the walls and faced the front counter. The receptionist was a middle-aged woman who clearly had been prepped for our arrival. Her muted smile and sympathetic eyes told the story. So as not to delay the event, the vet’s assistant immediately walked us to the examination room. She shed some tears with my wife before giving us some time alone.
The room itself was small but appropriately furnished. A metal exam table was flanked by a dark-colored couch and a few chairs. Pet-themed art was on the wall. A cabinet and sink were in the corner.
The vet came in, explained the procedure, and asked if we wanted it done on the table or the couch. We chose the couch then sat down with Sammy between us. He settled in and rested his head on my wife’s lap. It would be quick and easy, the vet said. The first needle would make him fall into a deep sleep; the second needle would stop his heart. That was it.
We scratched Sammy’s head and chest for about ten minutes while saying our good-byes. He seemed relaxed and enjoying the attention.
As we petted him, the memories flooded back. I thought about the day we got him, the struggles with house training, the walks to his favorite spot, the extra stocking at Christmas, the graceful way he ran, his appreciation of fresh water. Most of all, though, I thought about how the one thing you could count on when you got home was seeing him near the front door, anxiously awaiting your arrival. The older you get the more you appreciate that kind of loyalty.
Eventually the vet came back and asked if we were ready. We nodded and continued to pet him as she did her thing. He went to sleep in my wife’s lap after a few minutes, and then it was over.
Later that night, I couldn’t help but think of death and dying and how brutal some people’s last days can be. I thought about my grandmother who died of Alzheimer’s, a ruthless affliction that left her unable to recognize her seven children and her husband of 50-plus years. I thought of my other grandmother, whose illnesses before death shrunk her to a shell of her former self.
I thought about cancer victims whose pain belies a merciful God, dementia and stroke sufferers who require 24/7 care, and countless others with terminal diseases that often rob them of their money, hope, and dignity.
I also thought about the millions of people who spend their last days in impersonal nursing homes or hospitals, their life’s savings depleted by the obscene cost of treatment and medication, their families distraught by an unfair dilemma.
The scary part is how often this scenario may be repeated with aging baby boomers and America’s backwards medical system. (Katy Butler’s recent column in the New York Times is about as eloquent a rendering of this tragedy as you’ll find.) In the thick of it will be elder law attorneys helping people deal with these tricky, complicated issues.
Then I shook my head and thought about how my dog was permitted to go out. A needle to sleep, a needle to die – all while in the lap of the person who loved him most. I know law, ethics, and religion reject such a thing, but I must admit, at that moment, it didn’t seem so bad to die like Sammy.
That said, the lessons Sammy’s life taught us are more important: Be loyal, show patience with children, enjoy walks to your favorite spot, appreciate fresh water.