As older friends and relatives increasingly need our help, it’s not always possible for us to move back to personally oversee their care. The same goes for younger loved ones who face sudden illness or injury that robs them of their ability to care for themselves.
How can we best be in charge when we can’t be onsite?
It takes a plan, one best made well ahead of the time when there’s a real need. In reality, caregiving issues should be part of any person’s long-term financial plan if there’s even the remotest chance that a spouse, partner, parent, child, aunt or uncle, sibling or friend may end up needing our care.
Statistics suggest that possibility may not be all that remote, particularly as Americans live longer. In a 2009 report, The National Alliance for Caregivers, in collaboration with AARP and the MetLife Foundation, reported that 29 percent of the U.S. adult population, or 65.7 million people, are caregivers. Those numbers are expected to grow due largely to the aging Baby Boomer demographic.
Where to start? A good first stop is a qualified financial planner who can look at your overall financial picture and the financial picture for your loved one. Then you can determine how much help you can offer from a money perspective, either in direct care, travel expenses or expenses for third parties offering direct assistance onsite.
It’s important to get one-to-one advice on these matters because a caregiving plan needs to fit you and the person you’re trying to help. Here are some questions that can help you focus your thinking:
Do you know your loved one’s care preferences? Before you even get to money issues, understand what your loved one wants. The best-case scenario is to have a conversation with that person long before they care is needed, but even in a transitional situation, addressing care preferences and overall dignity is paramount. You need to make sure your loved one understands your situation too, particularly if your work, your family situation or other issues prevent you from caring for the loved one personally.
Before making a plan, understand each other. A family meeting might be a good idea so everyone understands these needs and wants.
Are their legal documents in place? Does this parent, relative or friend have a will and necessary health directives in place? Health directives name a single individual to manage all key health decisions if a patient cannot make them; a will depending on their assets and lifestyle situation — if they have kids to raise or a business to run, for example. Check to see what detailed legal instructions is in place to manage their finances or run their business if they are incapacitated.
And if those plans have not been made, they need to be made immediately with the help of financial planning, tax and estate experts to fit those documents to your loved one’s needs. An individual who is ill or disabled needs to designate trusted people to handle health and personal finance decisions. But if the individual has not planned for the future of his or her business, that is a third and very detailed step that needs to be addressed in collaboration with other family members as well as key co-workers or executives.
Do you know their financial situation? It’s rarely easy to talk about money even in the closest relationships. But once care preferences are known, then it’s time to discuss the loved one’s own financial preparations because one of the biggest misperceptions about long-term care is that the government provides financial support for nursing or home-based care. (Outside of medical care for those who qualify under Medicare or Medicaid, it doesn’t.)
Keep in mind that the questions go well beyond what’s necessary to provide care — loved ones may need to address large issues like real estate and estate planning and smaller issues like making sure monthly bills get paid. Expect a very wide-ranging and detailed conversation that could take weeks, not hours.
Who should handle what? Bigger families and groups can share responsibilities, and that can make the care giving job easier. But if you are soloing as the financial and health power of attorney, it’s important to devise ways to do remote tasks efficiently and bring in help when necessary so you can supervise effectively from afar.
-Consider a geriatric care manager: The National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers [www.caremanager.org] is an organization of on-the-ground caregivers and caregiving coordinators with skills that include nursing, gerontology, social work and psychology. For caregivers with limited time to address their loved one’s day-to-day issues but who have the resources to pay for help, it might be wise to consult with experts after checking their references and qualifications.
-Take full advantage of the Internet: Older relatives tend to trust traditional means of paying bills, but automatic bill pay and other online financial tools provide an extraordinary benefit for caregivers or relatives charged with managing someone else’s finances. Also, if a relative wants to continue a regular savings or investment plan in the event of incapacitation, those payments can be made as well. Most important — once those automatic transactions are set up, all the security codes and passwords must be kept in a safe place for both to access.
-Set up a home maintenance schedule: If the relative is hoping to return to the home or if it must be sold at a later date to pay bills or to settle the estate, it must be maintained to assure its value at the time it needs to be reoccupied or sold.
-Develop a paperwork system: The sheer amount of paperwork associated with caring for a sick or disabled person can shake the most organized individual. This is a particular priority for those who are managing this situation remotely. If the house is unoccupied, it’s also important that there is a way to keep mail secure to avoid identity theft — buy a shredder for all mailed materials that don’t need to be filed. Also ask your loved one for permission to pull his or her credit reports annually so you can confirm all accounts are current and they haven’t been targeted by identity thieves.
What if I need to move? Never say never — this is the reality of a caregiver’s life. Particularly as loved ones get to the end stage of their lives or suffer emergencies and other setbacks, supervising caregivers need to plan for anything. The need to relocate, even temporarily, should always stay in the back of your mind, and the best time to coordinate with family and employers is always before the need arises.
Gary S. Williams, CFP, CRPC, AIF, is president of Williams Asset Management at 8850 Columbia 100 Parkway, Columbia, Md. He is an investment adviser representative with/and offers securities and advisory services through Commonwealth Financial Network, Member FINRA/SIPC, a Registered Investment Adviser. He can be reached at 410-740-0220 or Gary@WilliamsAssetManagement.com. This communication is strictly intended for individuals residing in the states of: Arkansas, California, Colorado, Delaware, Florida, Kansas, Massachusetts, Maryland, Maine, Michigan, Missouri, North Carolina, New Jersey, New York, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Utah, Virginia, Wisconsin and West Virginia. No offers may be made or accepted from any resident outside these states due to various state requirements and registration requirements regarding investment products and services.