Second chances

Evan Koslow

Evan Koslow

We all know how important first impressions are. But I have to ask: Why aren’t people always provided a second chance?

Don’t get me wrong. People should face consequences for their mistakes. However, they should be forgiven and given the opportunity for a second chance. We are all flawed human beings. No one is perfect. Every second is an opportunity to start over, for life’s mistakes are initial drafts and not the final version.

Obviously, you can learn a lot about a person from his or her past, but if a transgression happened as a one-time incident or occurred a long time ago, why should it define the person in the present day?  That said, a second chance doesn’t mean anything if you didn’t learn from your mistake – which is why a third chance doesn’t exist.

Remember, people aren’t always what you want them to be. Sometimes they disappoint you. But you have to give people a chance. You can’t meet someone and expect that person to be everything you’re looking for and then be angry when he or she doesn’t live up to every hope and aspiration you had. It’s foolish to believe that people will be what you imagine them to be. Sometimes, when you give people a chance, they turn out to be better than you imagined. Different, but better.

In fact, second chances aren’t just for other people. Just as you should give others a second chance, give yourself a second chance too.  Maybe you wish you had learned to play the piano. Or you wish you had started drawing when you were young. Or you wish you had figured out who you wanted to be before you graduated from college. Or you wish you had learned to love yourself sooner. Well, you know what? You didn’t. And that’s just something you’re going to have to learn to deal with. But just because you didn’t do something sooner doesn’t mean you can’t start now.

That is why I believe that, for each of us, tomorrow is a second chance to prove that we are better than we were today.

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